Thursday, November 06, 2008

Days In The Life Of...

Isn't it amazing? Pertaining to the previous post, as I moped around wondering why I was even here blah, blah, blah, my brothers here confronted me for withdrawing and not speaking about what was bothering me. So, I told them and we had a huge discussion about gender roles and differences in our cultures and it bridged that gap between us. I mean, it didn't solve some of the big fat hairy issues but at least we heard eachother and I promised to be better at talking about my struggles instead of hiding. So, in the end, it becomes about friendship and doing what's necessary to keep that friendship from failing. We learned from eachother and will continue to do so as long as we are in eachother's lives.

Sigh...sometimes I can't believe how much we're alike and how much we're so different at the same time!

6 comments:

"Δημήτριος ο Ταξιδευτής" said...

Have a nice weekend with an old song from Demi Roussos

It's five o'clock
and I walk through the empty streets
thoughts fill my head
but then still
No one speaks to me
My mind takes me back
to the years that have passed me by
(interlude)
It is so hard to believe
That it's me
that I see
in the window pane
it is so hard to believe
that all this is the way
that is has to be
It's five o'click
and I walk through the empty streets
The night is my friend
And in him
I find sympathy
And so I go back to the years that have to past me by
(interlude)
It is so hard to believe
That it's me
that I see
in the window pane
it is so hard to believe
that all this is the way
that is has to be

It's five o'click
and I walk through the empty streets
The night is my friend
And in him I find sympathy
He gives, gives me day
gives me hope
and a little dream too

michelle.tasa said...

I love you so much for your heart. I know that you are rolling your eyes and sighing at the screen but too bad!!! That love is hard and you juggle it well because I don't know that I could do it. I remember sending my UK students home at the end of the day and crying at the feeling of helplessness as they went back to the violence and pain and poverty of their lives. I got numb and I think I cheated a bit by doing that. Maybe more than just a little bit. You aren't cheating babe! I love you.
Michelle

Nicole said...

Argh! Truthfully, there are times I retreat to that state of numb. Sometimes I have to. Don't think I'd survive otherwise. There are so many people and situations that I can't help. All I can do is be here and be me. And that's what you did too! Love you my sweet sister! Thank you!

stacey said...

I like the idea that connecting with people helps - even if it doesn't solve everything. I was frustrated by the stuff in your previous post. And overwhelmed. How do you change stuff like that? Should you change stuff like that? It all seemed confusing and horrible. But now I feel hopeful, even though, as you say issues remain unsolved. But the connection and talking about it openly and honestly in relationship feels important and hopeful. Thanks!

Nicole said...

Well, people, I feel like I need to say, my friends here are amazing. Awesome. Beautiful. Special. And we all have a lot to learn here. None of us has it right. I hope by being together, we glean all the best things from eachother and are strong enough to let go of the crap, no matter what culture or background we come from.

this too will pass said...

an interesting blog; compliments of the season